We have not built a profound understanding of the role of the nurse in various healthcare settings. Or, maybe the circumstances has led the society to a shallow understanding of the professional role/s of the nurse.
Whenever you apologize, do it the right way and for the right reasons.
It’s really hard to choose the right people to trust. We almost end up with regret for trusting the wrong people. Inevitable. But we can always tread with caution.
Good leaders, like good managers, provide vision, inspiration and direction (Morriss, Ely, & Frei, 2014). People want leaders who pursue goals and put emphasis on values (ethics) that are deemed important. People want leaders who respect and promote the dignity, autonomy, and self-esteem of their constituents.
A job title doesn’t make a person a leader. More so, it doesn’t direct a person to exhibit leadership behavior. It is a mistake to refer any person as a leader by virtue of his/her position. Leadership, rather than a mere quality, is more of a function that inspires individuals or groups without the coercive use of power (Roussel, Thomas, & Ratcliffe, 2014). But, let the reality speak for itself. These people actually exist. Many have been fooled by the notion that people holding an office are there because they are good managers or leaders. Some might be but it is not always the case.
While I believe both managerial and leadership skills are learned in the process, this isn’t enough reason for constituents to become minions of their growing tribe; let alone suffer the consequences of working under lousy, weak, and ineffective managers.
In no particular order, here are the top ten things ineffective and incompetent managers (by title) would say:
1) I cannot do anything about it.
This is possibly the worst thing a manager would say. While there are limits to one’s authority or power, anyone who is holding a high position can do something about his/her constituents’ opinion, suggestions, or grievances. He / she is in the position to forward, at least, these grievances to the proper authority for appropriate action. I guess this is the least the manager can do. Well, maybe, unless otherwise stated by law.
2) It has always been this way.
While we love the idea of preserving tradition, we don’t love the idea of being stuck in the old, corrupt, and ineffective system. We shouldn’t be afraid of trying out something new even when it’s scary. It’s always scary when doing things the first time. Traditions stick around because they preserve culture and customs. But if the ‘tradition’ is ineffective, might as well venture out to something new and different and make it the new tradition.
3) I don’t make the rules. I (try to) enforce them.
Is what a manager would say if he / she lived during the dictatorship. We are bound to question rules especially if they affect our welfare. I am not a fan of bending rules. Rules exist to create an organized environment that allows organizations to pursue its goals. Rather than bending rules, question. Revise. Question. Revise. Enforce.
4) I will consider your idea.
Or maybe never? Don’t hear me out. Listen! Maybe the best ideas come from the person we least expect.
5) This shouldn’t be fun.
Says the manager who’d rather live to see satisfactory ratings than a company made of happy, content, and goal-driven constituents. Work could and should be fun. Work, without play, makes Juan (or Juana) a dull boy (or girl). A productive workplace is one which people feel safe – safe to experiment, to challenge, to share information, and to support one another (Harter & Adkins, 2015).
6) You’re better than (insert name).
Or worse, “(insert name) is better than you.” Stop comparing one employee with another. Spend time discussing one’s strengths and weaknesses. Ang kalaban ay ang sarili. An employee and his/her manager should strive to improve the former’s mere average.
7) Because I’m the boss.
Says the weak manager. Just because he/she is the boss doesn’t mean he/she is right. Yet again, we live in the age where most of our heads are managers by title alone.
8) I don’t have time for you.
Yes, you do. Yes, you should have. Research have shown that managers spend greater than the average portion of their time listening. But doing a lot of listening doesn’t mean managers listen well. Listening is not the same as hearing.
9) Sh*t, P*ta, T*nga, etc.
Need I say more?
People value an effective two-way communication. It is the basis and sometimes the foundation of any healthy relationship. The best managers know and understand that each employee is unique. Each person has his / her own successes and challenges at and away from work. Knowing that employees are people first, managers move towards accommodating their employees’ uniqueness while managing toward high performance (Harter & Adkins, 2015). It is when people feel another person is invested in them that they are more engaged.
People leave bosses, not companies. A Gallup study of more than 7000 US adults revealed that one in two had left their job to get away from their manager to improve their overall life at some point in their career. In the case of the nursing profession in the Philippines, nurses leave the country primarily in search of better opportunities abroad. However, some do leave because they’ve grown tired of the system.
For several years, we’ve all been witnesses to countless managers who let titles do their jobs. Let today be the end of that era.#
Aside from mutual trust and respect, an open and honest communication is key to a ‘successful relationship’ (including friendships). But how do we even measure ‘success’? Based on the number of years lived together? Number of children? Number of events attended together? Or maybe the influence of the relationship and other related factors to one’s quality of life?
Comparing one relationship to another is counterproductive. We should evaluate and strive to improve our relationships based on mutually set vision, goals, and desires.
Speak the (love) language of your partner. Speak it frequently and consistently.
The end is the beginning and the beginning is the end.
The past year was a series of anniversaries, endings, and new beginnings. In this blogpost, I present the highlights of my year – my own version of #2017bestnine. I’ll do away with very long wordy blogpost which I did in the previous year. This year, let me take you back to everything that’s happened in the past year through pictures.
Our undergraduate research paper was published in several online journals this year. Cannot help but be proud of our group!
2. HIV STATUS
My partner and I got tested for HIV and we both learned that we’re in the healthy side of statistics. We encourage everyone, LGBTQIA and straight, to take the test. Read more: Know your status.
3. WARD 5 and NRS FAMILY
I enjoyed my very first summer outing with the Ward 5 Family! We went to Bolinao in Pangasinan and enjoyed the beautiful Patar Beach.
Nightingale Research Solutions celebrated its first anniversary on August this year. We continue to offer research consultancy services. For more information, visit our page here: NRS.
I’ve been in the service for more than a year now. I am proud to say that I have finished my two-year return service pending the submission of my final RSA report. 🙂
4. HIGH SCHOOL FRIENDS
Grabbed almost all the opportunities to be with my high school classmates. Low maintenance, ever-supportive friends!
5. Project GifTED and Serge Aclan
Project GifTED was launched early this year and was able to receive grants for its project proposal : the establishment of the Lipa City Youth Orchestra. After receiving the top prize during the Angat Buhay Youth Summit last August, we were also invited to visit South Korea to pitch our proposal for more funding. Here’s the story as told by Rappler: Project GifTED.
Hanyang University (Seoul) invited us to pitch our project proposal and join the 2nd 17 Hearts Festival. The event was held last November. Project GifTED was given another grant amounting to 1,000,000 Korean Won.
6. BIRTHDAY AWAY FROM HOME
I was in Korea during my birthday. Happy that I was able to celebrate it with new friends from various countries in the world.
Here’s a photo of the post-birthday celebration with the Family.
And finally, a very late birthday celebration with my closest college friends.
7. MEET and GREET
In the middle of 2017, I organized a family dinner where they “officially” met Neil as well as the partners of my two sisters.
Just this December, one of our cousins got married and I was asked to be one of his groomsmen. It was a wonderful wedding experience and celebration of love.
9. NEIL AND I
Finally, Neil and I celebrated our first anniversary last September. Our relationship isn’t and will never be perfect but I am happy and blessed that this is true. I’ve never been happier. I’ve never been more certain. Borrowing the lyrics of the song Forevermore, you were just a dream. I never thought I would be right for you.
I never thought I am the right one for you.
Many other great things happened this year. Thank you to everyone who made 2017 an awesome year. Let’s leave all the negative behind and look forward to bigger and better things. There are many things to be thankful for. But more importantly, there are many more to look forward to.
Here’s to hoping for a greater year this 2018! Cheers! 🙂
Photo credits: Javillonar, E. Jarabe, A. Jarabe, Rosales, RR Tamayo, Magno, Falzado, Rappler, bestnine2017, Gilo, Office of the Vice President
There are good movies but there are better ones. Depends on how you define ‘good’ and ‘better’. I just don’t like shaming one or two movies because it lacked visual appeal, social relevance and impact. For every film that’s out in the market, there’s a director, production team, and a set of artists who definitely gave their efforts to produce one that suits their target audience.
Movies that some people consider as ‘bad’ are not necessarily bad. For some, it could be as entertaining as they want it to be, serving the primary (I suppose) purpose and goal of the whole industry.
However, I am one with the call for more socially-relevant, world-class films that we, Filipinos, can truly be proud of. The Philippine film industry should evolve and become what the society needs it to be. We should produce films not to merely entertain but to encourage, inspire, and move Filipinos to embrace the true Filipino identity, appreciate our homegrown talents, and laud the artistry that is truly Filipino.